*blank*
Man Who Beat Wife Speaks Of Abuse
Tue, 2015-12-15 01:21
#1
Man Who Beat Wife Speaks Of Abuse
Tue, 2015-12-15 01:24
#2
[url=http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/manitoba/winnipeg-man-who-abused-his-wife-... his story in the hopes of getting abusers to stop:[/url]
A Winnipeg man who physically abused his wife for many years said it took him a long time to realize he needed help."James" is sharing his story with CBC News in hopes that it will help encourage other men and women affected by domestic violence to seek out support. CBC News is not identifying the man by his real name for privacy reasons.
...
James started talking to a counsellor at the Evolve Men's Program at Klinic in Winnipeg two years ago.
He said it changed his life.
"For me it was a [tearful] moment, I wept when I realized there was a different way," he said.
"For me it was like somebody had gone into my soul and literally was stroking my heart, telling me there is another way, you know there is another way, like a whisper."
...
Mel MacPhee-Sigurdson is a counsellor at the Evolve Men's Program at Klinic, which offers support to men who want to stop behaving abusively with their partners.
"All of the men who come here are at risk of being charged, all of them identify that they behave abusively and they want to do something different about that," MacPhee-Sigurdson said. "They don't want to be that kind of person anymore."
Tue, 2015-12-15 23:15
#3
Here's an interesting excerpt:
She said the program only helps about 20 men per year because many are too afraid to call and get help."We do lose a couple here and there," she said. "Some guys are not quite ready to take that look at themselves."
She said unlike the Women's Evolve program at Klinic, there is no wait list for the men's program.
"Men are not coming to us in droves; women are coming to us in droves," she said.
"It's concerning because for every man that stays silent on this issue, there's a person who is being harmed," MacPhee-Sigurdson added.
It's interesting that so many MRAs complain about the lack of services for men, yet when it comes down to it, few of them seem to be coming forward for help, and perhaps this feeds into the cycle. In other words, why would you try and help someone who hasn't even asked you for it? Granted, this applies specifically to men who abuse women, but I'm going out on a limb to extrapolate and assume the reluctance to want to seek help applies to men in relationships with abusive women as well.
Too often, discussions with other men will tend to validate the destructive frame of mind that perpetuates this hurt, and the cycle feeds itself. One example is the Elliot Rodger shooting. One of the reasons Rodger gave for shooting everyone is that women wouldn't have sex with him. I saw far more men respond with an echo-chamber pity-party about being used by women and how women won't have sex with them than I saw men challenge the idea that your manhood depends on whether or not you have had sex.